Letters From Alex

Hi Reader Most people try to fix their anxiety. They view anxiety as a problem to be solved. Something to change and get rid of. Here’s why that never works. Anxiety isn’t a feeling. Anxiety is a spiral. The anxiety spiral tricks us into doing the things that cause it to grow.So the more you fight it, the more it escalates, leading you further and further away from peace. Here’s how the anxiety spiral works Something in your environment feels threatening. A small fear response happens. That...

Letters From Alex COACH The Silence After the Achievement: When There's No One to Tell "Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." -Carl Jung You got the promotion. Closed the deal. Hit the number. Posted the win. And then. Deafening silence. Not the good kind. Not the satisfied quiet of a job well done. The hollow kind. The kind that echoes back at 3 AM when you're staring at the ceiling wondering why the...

Letters From Alex COACH Why You Keep Looking For Permission You've built a life that looks good on paper. The career. The income. The responsibilities. But somewhere along the way, you stopped making decisions from your gut and started checking with everyone else first. Your partner. Your boss. Your parents. The invisible jury in your head. You're waiting for someone to tell you it's okay to want what you want. To leave the job. To start the thing. To say no. To disappoint someone. You're a...

LETTERS FROM ALEX COACH "The first and best victory is to conquer self." — Plato Most people are not free. They think they are. They believe the illusion of choice—what to eat, where to work, who to spend time with—equals freedom. But true freedom isn't about external options. It's about the skill of managing your mind. This skill impacts everything: your health, your wealth, your relationships, your peace, your happiness. Without it, you're a passenger in your own life, reacting to...

Hey Reader, Most high-achievers I know (myself included, for years) are absolute masters at thinking. We analyze, strategize, optimize, and foresee every possible risk. But here’s the uncomfortable truth I had to face: We’re often just as addicted to negative thinking as we are to productivity. I used to think my constant inner commentary was “realistic” or “responsible.” “If I share too much, they'll know my secrets.”“These people are hypocrites.”“If I leave this job, I’ll lose everything...

In 2020, I knew someone was spiraling. I had tools that could help, but I said nothing… Hey Reader, In 2020, my wife mentioned that her friend Cristina, from Portugal, was spiraling hard. The pandemic chaos was really affecting her. I had just started waking up to how my own thinking — not the external chaos — was the real source of suffering. I was learning tools that were pulling me out of the darkness I’d carried for decades. I knew those tools could help her. And I thought about reaching...

I discovered my purpose in 2020, sitting alone in a quiet lab at 2 PM, when I finally admitted the truth I'd been hiding for 13 years: I was living someone else's life. Looking back, I realized my purpose was just behind the unaddressed limiting beliefs I'd been carrying. I've also realized this insight has been true in helping others find their purpose. The Golden Cage It was 2020. I was staring at a mountain of data I had no desire to go through as the fog from my glasses clouded my vision....